Knowing what causes depression helps us uncover how to best treat it.
You can deconstruct the fear as one of two types; either emotional fear or physical fear.
“Every distress and every dysfunction of the physical body, every illness, can be understood in terms of power loss to an external circumstance or object through one of several energy centers within the body. You lose power when you rage against an injustice. You lose power when you are threatened by another person, or other people. You lose power when you distance yourself from your fellow humans out of resentment or bitterness, or a sense of disappointment or unworthiness or superiority. You lose power when you long for something or someone, when you grieve, and when you envy another. Beneath all of these is fear, fear that you are vulnerable, that you are not able to cope without the person or the situation that you miss, that you are at a disadvantage without that which you envy. You lose power whenever you fear. That is what a loss of power is.” – Gary Zukav, The Seat of The Soul
The key to overcoming this fear is to remember that you are energy that can never be destroyed.
Yes, our bodies come and go, but we exist forever. I love this quote from Dr. Laura Berman, in her book, Quantum Love: “Don’t be scared of heartbreak or you won’t fully experience the joy of the heart. Remember, energy cannot be decreased or destroyed. You are always okay. You are never alone.” Trust that everything is FOR YOU and though the stress response may seem like a bad thing, sometimes it is there for you to pause and uncover what lesson you have yet to learn.
“Depression is the reward we get for being good – if you want to feel better, declare what you want for people to do that would fulfill your need to be loved.” – Marshall Rosenberg, Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Life
“Resentment creates defiance. If you try to control it, it will become stronger — or crumble and turn into depression.” – Dr. Shefali Tsabary, The Year of The Awakened Heart
It is often said that depression is a chemical imbalance, but it’s so much more than that.
“In a revealing study published in 2003 in Science, researchers considered why patients on SSRI antidepressants, such as Prozac or Zoloft, don’t feel better right away. There is usually a two-week lag between starting the drugs and and the time the patients feel they are getting better. The study found that depressed people exhibit a surprising lack of cell division in the region of the brain called the hippocampus, a part of the nervous system involved with memory. Hippocampal cells renewed cell division at the time the patients first began to experience the mood-shifting effect of the SSRI drugs, weeks after the onset of the drug regiment. This study and others challenge the theory that depression is simply the result of a ‘chemical imbalance’ affecting the brain’s production of monoamine signaling chemicals, specifically serotonin. If it were as simple as that, the SSRI drugs would likely restore that chemical balance right away.” – Dr. Bruce Lipton, The Biology of Belief
“So, the theory holds, the real value of these medications may be in generating new neurons (a process called neurogenesis), strengthening nerve cell connections, and improving the exchange of information between nerve circuits.” – Harvard Health Publishing, What Causes Depression.
Well here is an exciting fact: you can do this all on your own with meditation. Not only does meditation help you create new neurons, it also creates new neural pathways, connecting both the left and right sides of your brain.
“It is through actually FEELING what we WANT to feel that we engage our hippocampus in committing to a new belief.” – Dr. Laura Berman, Quantum Love
For anyone experiencing depression, the treatment is going to come in layers:
- Work on halting the stress response through mindfulness (living in the NOW) and by removing yourself from a stressful environment if possible (seek help if you’re a parent)
- Learn to sit with your pain when you are stressed rather than finding relief from synthetic bliss like food, sex, alcohol, or other addictive behaviors. Almost none of us were raised to do this so it is challenging at first.
- Shift your focus outside of yourself. Often what stresses us is not even real, and merely shifting our focus to others and how WE can help or show love to OTHERS in need moves us out of the pain almost instantaneously. If you have a real problem, focus only on the solution.
- Eat high vibration (fruits, vegetables) foods so your food isn’t keeping you in a low frequency state (especially avoid sugar) – soy milk can also have a hormone-regulating effect despite all of the myths circulating about phytoestrogens
- Move old emotional energy out with physical activity (yoga)/feeling your feelings
- Start a regular meditation practice to both stop the stress response and begin neurogenesis
- Deconstruct/heal old wounds and triggers, seeking specialized treatment for severe physical or emotional trauma
- Keep a gratitude journal so you begin to shift from a LACK mindset to an ABUNDANCE mindset – even if it means you can only find the next breath to be grateful for
- Find comfort from a loved one or trusted coach/counselor/therapist that will listen to you and help you release emotional energy as well as shift to new beliefs
- In cases where medication is indicated, I recommend using genetic testing via Genomind to help you determine the RIGHT treatment for you without months of trial and error
“If there is unhappiness in you, first you need to acknowledge that it is there. But don’t say, “I’m unhappy.” Unhappiness has nothing to do with who you are. Say: “There is unhappiness in me.” Then investigate it. A situation you find yourself in may have something to do with it. Action may be required to change the situation or remove yourself from it. If there is nothing you can do, face what is and say, “Well, right now, this is how it is. I can either accept it, or make myself miserable.” The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it…. Facing facts is always empowering. Be aware that what you think, to a large extent, creates the emotions that you feel. See the link between your thinking and your emotions. Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.” – Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth
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