The BS of Belief Systems

Ego, Empower, Exploring Triggers, Limiting Beliefs, Relationships, Religion, Vulnerability
August 7, 2017

The Authentic Wife and Mom

Beth Rowles | The Conscious Marriage Coach

Did you know that our kids are basically in HYPNOSIS from ages 0-6?  That’s right – anything and everything you tell them and expose them to while their brain is in mostly Alpha and Theta waves will be stored in their subconscious for LIFE and become part of their program.

Think of your subconscious as your Operating System, like Windows.  It’s what tells you what to do with every single experience and input you give it.  It creates automatic feelings and responses.  Even something as simple as saying to a two year old, “Oh you’re sick, we have to go to the doctor,” teaches your body that, when you’re sick, the only way to get better is to go to the doctor.  In fact, they’ve found often just the doctor visit itself is enough to start the body on a healing path!

Amazing, isn’t it?

So when we were told how, what, where, and when to do EVERYTHING as toddlers and preschoolers, those became things we believed about ourselves and our world as if they were FACT.

When are you stuck in one of these belief systems?  Anytime you think you or someone else SHOULD.

“I shouldn’t eat that..”
“I should go to church.”
“I shouldn’t sin.”
“I should give them money.”
“I should have a better job.”

There is a simple truth to life: we are here to love ourselves and then others.  When we act and exist in this high frequency state, there is no need for rules, morals, codes, or religion.  It is ONLY when we love that we are in alignment with our Source.  In fact, we can ONLY be in two states:

1. Love
2. Fear

Almost all religion and cultural belief systems are rooted in fear.  Any time we judge others, are afraid of others, feel angry, feel hate, etc., we are rooted in fear.  Once you remove this from your energy output, you aren’t going to make any “wrong” choices, though there is no “right” or “wrong”.  There are only many levels of consciousness.  Once you are rooted in love, you realize you are connected to everyone else, and you operate in the best interest of yourself and the universe.

Someone that hurts another person is operating at a very low level of consciousness, but they are not “wrong” or “bad”, they just are in fear.  They haven’t evolved yet.   In fact, their history is likely so full of fear and pain that they are doing all they know how to do.  This is why parenting is such a profound and important job.

Since these beliefs are buried deep in your brain, it’s hard to shift out of them, but it is possible.  First it’s recognizing them as nothing more than opinions and letting them go.  But then it’s also about REPROGRAMMING or re-wiring your brain, and the best way to do this is through meditation.

There are also energy therapies that help, like hypnosis, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, EMDR or tapping, Body Talk, etc.  Check out the thought leader in this arena’s work – Bruce Lipton – for more resources.  And I recommend all of my clients read his book, “The Biology of Belief“.

I am trying to remember all of the limiting beliefs I’ve shifted since starting on this path of learning with Dr. Shefali Tsabary after reading “The Conscious Parent”.  I think the very first one I ever changed was that, when someone makes us very angry, we should yell at them!  I literally thought it was perfectly normal and maybe even necessary to make others feel our wrath!!  I can’t believe I ever thought this now!

Another is that I should withhold love or withdraw if I’m right.  Oh, the pride.  Oh, the EGO!

Everything is in YOUR hands.  YOU CREATE THE REALITY YOU WANT by shifting your energy to that of PURE LOVE, high frequency, blissful love, and dropping your ego in the dust.  The only way to do this is to continually connect with nature, meditate, and heal your past thorns.

But don’t forget, your body has been doing this for a long time.  It’s used to and expects your BS.  You have to give it time with a daily practice of self-care and meditation to rewire your brain AND your cells.  It is perfectly normal to go through periods of self-sabotage because your body is actually just following its program for the BS it is used to.  Your cells actually have receptors designed for your own personal BS.

Besides Bruce Lipton’s work, check out “The Awakened Family” by Dr. Shefali Tsabary and “Quantum Love” by Dr. Laura Berman.

Beth Rowles
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I help driven moms use the conflict in their marriage as a feedback loop to grow in self-awareness so they can create the marriage they, and their kids, deserve without leaving the one they're in or waiting for their husband to evolve.

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